Do you have to maintain your racist friend just because they were your friends before you met your interracial partner?
Tricky huh! Kinda like having to condone your racist family. Well, this is a black and white situation.
Imagine introducing the love of your life or telling a friend about him or her only for them to exclaim: “He is white!” or ‘She is Asian!”. And this is not in a good way. They have disgust on their faces.
This is just an introduction. What will come next? What problems is this person going to cause for your relationship down the road? You need to ask yourself that.
Why you need to cut ties with your racist friend.
One thing I tell people is: If someone is your friend, they need to accept you as you are. We are different people with different preferences. Would a friend reprimand you for dating a skinny dude of your own race? I don’t think so. So why should it matter that you are dating interracially?
Friends need to be people who are there for you no matter what. They need to support even the most stupid decisions you make, as long as you believe in what you are doing.
Now, if you have told your friend how much you are into this person who is of a different race, then they need to respect that. If they are racist, then they will go to whatever length to screw up your relationship. My advice: CUT TIES with them.
A friend will always want the best for you. They will support your romantic relationships no matter how screwed up they seem. And they will be there to pick up the pieces if things fall apart.
You don’t want your racist friend in your life that’s for sure. He or she will embarrass your new love in front of masses. My advice, tell them off and let them realize how much you are invested in the relationship. If they can’t get that and they still continue with the racist attitude, it’s about time to cut that cord.
It doesn’t matter how long you have known them. Racism is an unacceptable behavior. This is someone you cannot have involved in your life, especially your interracial love life. PERIOD!